Creativity in the Midst of Family Life

I’m reposting something I wrote over five years ago. A lot has changed since then, but it’s still relevant. Maybe more so.  The artwork is new. The idea isn’t.

First, let me make this clear. I’m not complaining. I love my family and my life. That said, I was waiting for my kids to get a little older so I could ‘FOCUS ON MY ART’.

You know –   long, leisurely days spent painting without interruption; kids in school, nothing else to do except maybe cook dinner. HA. Medical forms, phone calls, ‘Muffins with Mom’, cleaning the cobwebs off the front door, washing the baseball uniform for the game tonight, email, running the forgotten signature form to school, paying the electric bill…..

You got it. NOT GOIN’ TO HAPPEN. So, how do you as an artist (or writer or photographer or creative soul) stay creative? Set studio hours. Check. (Well…sort of.) Music. Check. Designated studio space. Check. Long, uninterrupted periods of painting time. No.

I re-read the old book The Girlfriend’s Guide to Getting Your Groove Back. The author, Vicki Lovine, discusses waiting for your family to ‘not need anything’ before you chase your dreams.
Ok, let that sink in……

‘waiting for your family to not need anything’.

Who are we kidding? We wouldn’t want it any other way, right?
I thought when my kids started kindergarten or even when they turned 10 or maybe 14 I would go back to ‘who I was before’.  I waited. And waited. Until I had time. Lovine tells me us  ‘who I was before’ is just not going to take place. After teenagers, it’s the next thing: college challenges, sick parents, or grandkids. I’d say, it is life. We are smart women, I guess we don’t always get the obvious. Or I don’t.

 Make art around life, not life around art.

I have to tell myself that it is ok to work in 15 minute increments. But I also need to allow time for creativity. To not rush. I’m chasing my dreams slowly. Methodically.
Do it now. Or it will NEVER happen. If we wait for a day when we have nothing scheduled before carving out creative time, it is just not going to happen.  Which means waiting is not an option.
Even if its only fifteen minutes between making cupcakes for the Fall Festival and filling out the three page form for summer camp.


2 thoughts on “Creativity in the Midst of Family Life

  1. wendymitch says:

    Thank you for the reminder to make art around life! I’m always waiting for more time…all I need to do is just use the small bits of time I have. So again, thank you for helping me realign my thoughts of having the perfect day to create art, when all I have to do is step into my studio and put my brush to the canvas. By the way, loving your art licensing!


    • Pamela Wingard says:

      It was a good reminder for me too! When I wrote it my kids were much busier and now I have a little more time to focus on my art. Still, it’s an ongoing challenge to just begin..if only for a few minutes. I’m trying to simplify the start-up process so its all ready to go when I step in there! Thanks for the nice word on my art licensing too.


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